I know the title doesn't really fit, I know the world is an unfair place and I know we get way too many sad moments compared to the happy ones. But then its all in our head. We can live through the sorrow if we just make up our mind and find happiness in silly, little things around us. I remember back in the tenth standard when I had gone on a school excursion, it was freezing in Nainital, and I just had one new sweater with me which turned out to be no good. So a very good friend, had advised me to just think that it wasn't cold, and it actually did work. So when our mind is capable of adapting to actual, physical conditions the way we want to, why not do the same with our emotions?
I know what you're thinking. That it's all bullshit, that you can't just make things go your way. That it hurts when you see him with her whatever you try to think. That you still prefer the pain over happiness because it symbolises something. That its all big talk and in the end none of it works. But trust me, I know! I know what it feels like to see someone else get what you so obviously deserve, I know what it's like when life sweeps the floor off from under your feet. But that's not the end of it. Endings are always in your hands, you can change your ending and get a happy one if only you're willing to work for it.
Step 1 : Detachment
Detach yourself from what you're attached to most. Distancing yourself from whatever is sucking your happiness is half the problem solved. Just steel yourself and do it.
Step 2 : Distractions
Look for healthy distractions, not ones that land you back in square one. Take up a hobby, write how you feel, surround yourself with people who care about you.
Step 3 : Denial
I know this sounds bad, but its a really good trick. Pretending something didn't happen actually helps you forget things sooner. I might sound like a lunatic here, but just give it a try and you'll know what I mean.
So those are the three D's I find really helpful in kicking out the negatives from my life.
#incoherent
I know what you're thinking. That it's all bullshit, that you can't just make things go your way. That it hurts when you see him with her whatever you try to think. That you still prefer the pain over happiness because it symbolises something. That its all big talk and in the end none of it works. But trust me, I know! I know what it feels like to see someone else get what you so obviously deserve, I know what it's like when life sweeps the floor off from under your feet. But that's not the end of it. Endings are always in your hands, you can change your ending and get a happy one if only you're willing to work for it.
Step 1 : Detachment
Detach yourself from what you're attached to most. Distancing yourself from whatever is sucking your happiness is half the problem solved. Just steel yourself and do it.
Step 2 : Distractions
Look for healthy distractions, not ones that land you back in square one. Take up a hobby, write how you feel, surround yourself with people who care about you.
Step 3 : Denial
I know this sounds bad, but its a really good trick. Pretending something didn't happen actually helps you forget things sooner. I might sound like a lunatic here, but just give it a try and you'll know what I mean.
So those are the three D's I find really helpful in kicking out the negatives from my life.
#incoherent
Detachment? Detachment? Seriously?
ReplyDeleteAnd that's the first step?
Maintaining distance from 'her' is not ...is not even an option. It can never happen.
All I could do is wait. Wait till it all passes by with time.
Maybe months. Maybe years.
Happy endings? One word for it - 'LoL'
I've even lost my faith in the Divine Being.